How To Keep Going

Sometimes it seems to be the hardest thing in the world. Let me tell you something about me that I’m sure you can all relate to: even today, with the happy life I’ve designed for myself, I fall into phases of failure, melancholy, dejection. Phases when I “technically” know how to attract that woman, get that job, take that challenge, but I just can’t pull it off. Look, it’s human. We need those phases to remind us that we’re vulnerable, and how to keep going. Let me share how I get back on top (or sometimes she’s on top, depends on the mood)!


I’ll give you a couple of seemingly unconnected pointers here, but bear with me, I’ll tie them up in the end.

Search yourself

More often than not, dry spells come when something within us gets out of balance. We feel down, drained, jaded, sad. It spirals from there: your doldrums show when you interact with others, they influence your actions, and that’s how they affect the outcomes.

First of all, embrace your moods. You’re not a machine. You have emotions, and they work the way they do. If you try to fight them, to force yourself into “happiness” or cheat your body with coffee and cigarettes, you’ll just make it worse.

Instead, take it down a notch and reflect. Listen. What is it you’re unhappy about? What is your body trying to tell you? We often have a hard time interpreting our feelings just because we don’t listen to them.

We think that “to keep going” means to carry on as we were, ignoring the signals our body is sending. Well, that’s wrong. Think about specific moments where you feel low. Is it at work? Was it the house party on Saturday where you blew all those conversations? Is it when you spend another evening alone watching TV? Is it when you waste time on the internet and you know you could do something meaningful instead, but you just can’t bring yourself to to it?

Design what you do next

You will find that some of the things that ail you, you can’t (easily) change. Yet, you can always, under any circumstance, change your attitude towards them! This is done easiest when you have something else in your life that

a) you have full control of
b) is going well.

You need to create something that’s uniquely yours. That “they” can’t take from you. So design what you do next. Consider: what do you love? Are you into music? Acting? Singing? Dancing? Web design? Photography? Painting? Drawing?

Hey, there’s a lot. If you look just a bit below the surface, you will easily find activities to help you channel your emotions – your soul. I’ll call them “creative outlets”.

Reclaim control

So you have some loose ends now – listen to your emotions, change your attitude towards circumstances, find creative outlets. How does it all fit together?

Well, these steps entail each other and work together to pull you out of your rut. Of course, you have to identify first what’s going on inside you. Then, you should to find where you can make a change – some things you can amend like that (stop watching TV all the time), others are circumstances you have to deal with (or make huge changes in your life to get rid of, e.g. quit, move away).

This is where you want to design your own outlet. So you start drawing or writing. Soon enough, you have truly captivating stories or sketches! They make you happy because your soul can manifest in them, and others love them because they feel the emotion inside. Now, this is what allows you to change your attitude towards circumstances: you just don’t care about them as much anymore, because you’ve learned how to keep going despite circumstances. There is good stuff happening in your life, and it’s because you sparked it. Now how easy is it to get that job, pass that test, and seduce that woman?

5 Things You Don't Know About Attraction

1. Your Nose Should Be Part of Foreplay
The blend of lavender and pumpkin turns guys on. But, you don’t have to bake a pie and douse yourself in lavender oil. You can create the combination by lighting two candles or spraying these scents on your neck. Oh, and tell your guy to spritz on a cologne with hints of cucumbers or black licorice, since those smells were found to arouse women.
Source: Smell and Taste Research Foundation in Chicago

Confidence Impresses Women

Tips for men in a relationship. Alright, just a really quick tip today. And what is that tip? Well, that tip is in regards to confidence, and the effect it tends to have on women.
A lot of guys often wonder how they can impress a woman that they like, that they want to ask out, or that they just started dating. They try to figure out the best ways to impress these women and come across as an incredibly interesting, great guy. Well, the truth is that the best way for you to impress a woman is to not actually try to impress her.
Look, we all know that women like confidence, and are attracted to guys who are confident. So what is confidence? Its self-assurance and a sense of self-esteem. It makes you feel like you’re worth something, and like you’re an interesting person just the way you are without going out of your way and doing more than you’re supposed to do.
So, when you’re not trying to impress and come off as too smart, too rich, and too sophisticated, then you’ll be much more impressive to a woman than when you’re bragging about yourself, talk too much, and try too hard.

World’s Most Expensive Men’s Clothing

When playing Dr. Heathcliff Huxtable on The Cosby Show (1984-1992), Bill Cosby most often wore shirts with loud, geometric, swirling and/or patchwork patterns. This habit gave rise to the term “Cosby sweater,” used to describe similar sweaters. In 2008, Hello Friend and the Ennis William Cosby foundation put three of those famous sweaters up for auction on eBay.

Berluti Rapiécés Reprisés – $1,830

These shoes, inspired by Andy Warhol, are notable for the patched appearance traditionally reserved for clothing. Because Warhol requested a visible patch only on his right shoe, each set includes an additional left shoe that remains unpatched.

Eton 80th anniversary dress shirt – over $45,000

Swedish shirt-making company Eton, celebrating their 80th birthday, created this shirt out of the finest Egyptian cotton. Of course, it couldn’t be the most expensive shirt in the world without a few diamonds. Both the studs and the cufflinks are encrusted with diamonds—white diamonds on the cufflinks and colored diamonds on the studs.

Antique Levi’s jeans – $60,000

Levi Strauss Company bid $46,532 to buy a pair of their own brand of jeans back on the popular auction site eBay. However, the most expensive jeans were an average pair of 501 jeans manufactured in the 1880s and purchased by a Japanese collector in 2005 for $60,000.

Satya Paul Design Studio necktie – $220,000

The Satya Paul Design Studio, a company with roots in the early stages of India’s fashion industry, displayed the most expensive necktie in the world at a fashion show aptly titled “Cultural Ties” in Mumbai on October 29th, 2003. Tied around the neck of bollywood film star Salman Khan, this unique tie is made of pure silk with a pattern in 150 grams of gold. It’s also adorned with 271 diamonds weighing 77 carats weighing 77 carats total.

30 Things Every Woman Should Quit Doing By 30

Here we’ve talked a lot about things every woman should do — or, at least know how to do — by the time she turns 30, but until now we haven’t focused too much on the no-nos for women after 30. After the jump, 30 things every women should stop doing once she turns 30.

Buying clothes from the junior section.
Forgetting her parents’ birthdays.
Making out with her BFFs at bars for attention.
Making out with her boyfriend at bars for attention.
Filling her bed with stuffed animals (really, even one is too many).
Carrying a torch for anyone she hasn’t seen in the last five years.
Rebelling against her parents for the sake of rebelling against her parents.
Declaring an entire gender “all jerks.”
Holding a grudge against anyone who wronged her in high school.
Skipping regular gyno exams.
Going to bed without washing and moisturizing her face.
Being “that person” who had a bit too much to drink at the office party.
Crushing on Justin Bieber.
Thinking she’s got it all figured out.
Calling her father “daddy.”
Engaging in sibling rivalry.
Trying to get by on her looks.
Living paycheck to paycheck.
Expecting a man/knight in shining armor to swoop in and save her.
Aimlessly jumping from job to job.
Using MySpace to pick up guys.
Expecting a man to do all the wooing.
Wishing she had someone else’s life.
Expecting everyone to drop everything because it’s her birthday ...
... or because her “boyfriend” of two weeks dumped her.
Measuring her self-worth by a number on the scale.
Being cheap.
Quitting a job without having a new one lined up first (especially in this economy!).
Blaming her mother for all her issues.
Romanticizing her 20s.